How Can We Explain the Powerful Allure of Female Sexuality?

September 8, 2021

How can we explain the overwhelmingly powerful allure of the human female’s sexuality? What exactly is it about an attractive young woman—especially one who is sensually dressed—that generates those special feelings, urges, and desires that most of us are familiar with? Those special feelings, urges, and desires that can temporarily override all logical thought processes, potentially prompting a person to lose rational behavioral control while under their emotional influence? What exactly causes this psychological and behavioral phenomenon?




As a lifelong male-to-female crossdresser who now fully identifies as a transgender woman, my own perspective on this issue is influenced by the feelings that I experience when I wear women’s clothes. Whenever I wear women’s clothes—especially silky hosiery, high heels, short dresses, blingy jewelry, flowery perfume… when I doll myself up with makeup… then look at myself in the mirror…. How can I describe the way I feel? Heavenly joyous sensual femininity… gloriously peaceful yet fabulously exciting at the same time. There is a strong spiritual aspect to these feelings.


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This explains the special joy that I feel when I dress like a sensual woman. And for me, this helps to clarify a large amount of the mysterious allure of female sexuality. There is a magical supernatural aspect to it. Femininity is a very special and unique gift from the Great Goddess / Mother Nature. Females are born with this gift. But genetic males, like me, can still capture the gift for ourselves if we have a transgender tendency—which is itself a special gift from the Goddess. Women and transwomen have the pleasure of feeling and enjoying this magical gift in their lives.


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Of course, most genetic men are not “transgender” like me. They do not want to feel like a woman or live as a woman or become a woman, as I do. So what explains the allure of female sexuality for them? I believe that most men, though they do not want the feelings of dressing like a female or being female, can till sense those powerful beautiful sensual amazing supernatural feelings when they admire a sexy woman. Men feel some aspects of the magical female joy and bliss when they gaze at a lovely lady, and they interpret those feelings as sexual desire. And during kissing, hugging, touching, and sexual intercourse, the man’s body merges with the woman’s body, in a literal sense. In that way, the man becomes one with the woman, and for that period of intimate contact, he experiences her inherent magical female sexuality for himself, as closely and intimately as possible. 


How might we explain lesbian sexual attractions? I believe that is actually the easiest aspect of this mysterious issue to explain. Women in a lesbian relationship not only enjoy the magical experience of their own femaleness, but the sexual merger with another woman allows them to experience the joy of interconnection with another female being blessed by the Goddess. In this sensationally sensual form of sharing, the women double the pleasure that they were given as a natural gift. Thus, it seems to me that lesbians must experience the greatest sexual pleasure that is humanly possible!


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In this essay, I have mainly been discussing possible psychological and spiritual explanations for the powerful allure of female sexuality. However, as with most human behaviors, there are also explanations that can be attributed to biological evolution. As human beings were evolving over the course of hundreds of thousands of years, behaviors and physical characteristics that increased chances of survival were favored. Characteristics that led to greater chances of reproduction were strengthened generation after generation, and they became ingrained in the human genome.


The wide hips, shapely posterior, and large breasts of women all developed for their practical roles in reproduction. They are outer evidence of the abdominal space for the growing baby in the uterus and of the post-birth maternal nurturing of the baby. Males came to view these female physical characteristics as sexually desirable—because that is how Mother Nature worked it out, so that male and female would desire each other, mate, produce offspring, and perpetuate the species. Today, the hips, butt, and breasts of women remain major sexual turn-ons for men—and major sites of cosmetic enhancement for women and transwomen. However, it is probably safe to say that most men enjoying their erections while looking at, thinking about, or caressing these lovely female body parts are not thinking about the roles of the fleshy female structures in perpetuating the species! Nevertheless, those body parts indeed evolved for that purpose. In other words, reproduction-related biological evolution is largely responsible for the sexual horniness that overtakes the brains of men when admiring sexually desirable women.


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In our modern era, pop culture is a factor that has played an extremely important role in training men’s brains to become sexually aroused by certain aspects of female sexuality. This pop culture factor includes advertising, movies, TV shows, music, pornography, and other elements that promote particular types of female looks and female clothing as sexually exciting. After all, the human species did not evolve throughout the eons with tight minidresses, lacy bras and panties, nylon pantyhose, and stiletto high heels! We have been essentially brainwashed, or conditioned, by the ad agencies and other pop culture marketers into believing that such things are sexy. I am sure that my own ideals of female sexuality have been implanted in my brain cells by the ads, movies, music, and porn that I have been exposed to as an American in the late 20th and early 21st centuries.


Although these cultural factors are important to human sexual consciousness, they would not be effective if they did not exploit things that Nature already put in place. A tight minidress on a shapely female body is effective at arousing sexual desire because it accentuates the wide hips and big breasts that evolved for reproductive purposes. Thus, we come back again to evolution. 


In summary, there are several factors responsible for the powerful allure of female sexuality—from individual psychological factors to species-wide genetic and evolutionary factors to numerous cultural influences. I believe that this female allure is far more powerful than the male allure, which also evolved and exists. Otherwise, our modern American/Western society would not be totally drenched in overt female sexuality the way that it is (to the pleasure of some, but to the disgust of others).




The fact that the allure of female sexuality is so overwhelmingly powerful and socially ubiquitous is why I am convinced that something else is at play besides just psychology, biology, and culture. As I have previously discussed, this “something else” is the supernatural element, or the spiritual element, of femininity and femaleness. This supernatural/spiritual element is the special unique something that was given as a gift to genetic women by the Great Goddess, with a similar (though different) gift being given to male-to-female transgenders.


Those of us who have this gift should be eternally grateful to the Goddess for giving it to us. And those men and others who admire the women and transwomen who have this gift should also obviously be grateful.


The powerful allure of female sexuality is indeed a glorious gift. But it is also ultimately a mysterious phenomenon. We should enjoy it as much as we can while we are alive. But we can never fully comprehend it while we remain in this world. Perhaps we will understand it better when we ultimately and completely enter the spiritual realm.


For now, I would like to say, “Thank you, Goddess, for the fabulous femaleness with which you have blessed the world!”